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Scripture: Proverbs 3:3,4, 11:17, 12:25, 14:21, 16:24, 21:21; Ephesians 4:32; Colossians 3:12

Memory verse: Proverbs 21:21
"Whoever pursues righteousness and love finds life, prosperity and honour."


Ask: “What is kindness?” (Let the students give their definitions of kindness.)

In the Book of Proverbs the word love is often used to describe kindness. Proverbs tells us kindness is important. Being kind benefits us as well as others. (Ask a student to read Proverbs 11:17 to the class.)

Hearing God's Word

(Read or have a student read Proverbs 3:3,4.)

Ask: “What does it mean to bind love and faithfulness about your neck and write them on the tablet of your heart?” (Allow responses.)

The words of the Ten Commandments were engraved on slabs of stone so everyone could know and remember them. God wants His Word written on our hearts and love (kindness) and faithfulness to be so much a part of our lives that they are like a necklace that we wear around our necks.

When you wear something around your neck, everyone can see it. To “bind love and faithfulness around your neck” is to let them be easily seen by others through what you say and do. They will also show in how you say and do things. You will have a gentle and giving spirit and will refuse to say or do hurtful things. Kindness is something you show at all times, just as you may constantly wear something you treasure. Others will know there is something about you that makes you different from those who do not love God.

The Benefit of Kind Words

An important way you can show kindness is by what you say. When someone is sad or depressed, you can say kind words to cheer the person.

Ask: “Have you ever seen someone who looked really sad? Did you do or say anything to help that person?” (Allow responses.)

Sometimes a hug, a kind note, or a friendly conversation is just what a person needs to help him feel better. Maybe you have recently spoken to someone in your neighbourhood or school who seems to be lonely or discouraged. That is a part of kindness—being friendly to others and saying kind things to them.

Perhaps you have said something or had someone say something to you that was unkind. Some people say things that hurt others and then add, “I was just kidding” or “Can you not take a joke?” Whether they meant their words or not, the damage was done. (Give the students an example of this by discussing Peter’s denial of Jesus. See Luke 22:54–62.) You cannot take back words once you have spoken them. You can apologize, but the hurt person may remember what you said for a very long time.

If someone has said something to hurt you, the Bible says you are to forgive that person. (Mention how Jesus forgave Peter for denying Him.) If you have trouble forgiving others, remember the many times God has forgiven you when you have hurt Him by sinning. Ask God to help you forgive those who hurt you and to refuse to think about it just as God does not remember our sins when He forgives us. Ephesians 4:32 says, “Be kind and compassionate to one another, forgiving each other, just as in Christ God forgave you.”

God will give you the strength to use kind words if you are doing your best to obey Him. If you ever feel like saying something unkind to someone, try to think how you would feel if someone said the same thing to you. Then ask God to help you keep quiet. God can give you victory over unkind attitudes and words.

When someone is friendly to you, do you not feel better? Does a problem not seem smaller when you are made happy by someone’s kindness?

(Ask a student to read Proverbs 12:25.) Often when you are worried you feel heavy and sad inside. If someone says something kind to you, it helps you feel better. Saying kind words may seem like a simple thing to do, but paying someone a compliment he deserves, giving him a happy smile, or saying “Is there anything I can do to help”” can go a long way in making a discouraged person feel better. God points this out in His Word not only so we will be happy, but that we will be kind to others and make them happy.

Do you know someone who always seems to be happy? When you are around that person, do you not feel happy too? You can help others be happy by having a happy attitude. People would much rather be around a happy person than an unhappy person. If you are happy and kind, you can be a good influence and a witness for God to those around you.

(Ask a student to read Proverbs 16:24.)

Ask: “What does this verse mean?” (Allow responses.)

Pleasant words are like honey, which is sweet and tastes good. Some people put honey in tea to help them feel better when they have colds. Kind or pleasant words help others feel better. They can affect even your body like a soothing medicine.

Kindness through Actions

Christians should show kindness to everyone. Proverbs 14:21 says, “He who despises his neighbour sins, but blessed is he who is kind to the needy.”

Ask: “Who are the ‘needy’?” (Allow responses.)

Did you know people can be needy even though they have a lot of money? People who are lonely are needy because they have no friends. People who do not know Jesus are needy in their souls. The Bible says to be kind to the needy. That means to do our best to meet the needs of others by sharing what we have—money, friendship, or the message of salvation.

Kindness is important to God. The Bible tells us a poor man who wishes he could help and shows sympathy toward another person in need is better than the rich man who could easily help someone but does not.

Colossians 3:12 says, “As God’s chosen people, holy and dearly loved, clothe yourselves with compassion, kindness, humility, gentleness and patience” When we show love, kindness, and compassion to others, God is pleased and will give us life and honour.

The memory verse for this week tells us what happens to those who follow after righteousness and love. (Read Proverbs 21:21 together and repeat it several times.) This verse in the Good News Bible reads: “Be kind and honest and you will live a long life; others will respect you and treat you fairly.”

God’s Kindness to Us

God is our greatest example of kindness and mercy. He has an everlasting kindness. Isaiah 54:8, 10 tells us that Israel turned away from God, but God showed mercy to them when they repented. God said He would never fail to show kindness to them.

God is a loving God, always willing to show mercy. Giving His only Son Jesus to die on the cross for our sin is the greatest expression of love and kindness ever shown.

It is God’s will for every Christian to be kind. Are you always kind to others? God has given us power through the Holy Spirit to be kind. Ask God to help you fill your life with kindness to others through your words and actions.

In an unkind world, God’s kindness extended to a hurting life is “sweet to the soul and healing to the bones” (Proverbs 16:24.) Review the kindness God showed us by sending Jesus—and the kindness of Jesus in being willing to suffer and die on the cross. Pray individually with each who wants to ask Jesus to be their Saviour.

Doing God’s Word

The goal of a Christian is to be more like Christ every day. Since Jesus is kind, we should do our best to be kind also. Being kind not only helps us, but it also makes others feel better and shows them a good witness of Jesus’ love.

God’s kindness extended to a hurting life in an unkind world is “sweet to the soul and healing to the bones” (Proverbs 16:24).

Accepting God’s Word

Ask the students to suggest ways that they can be kind to people. Encourage them to write down something kind they said or did for someone during the day and something kind that was said or done for them. Everyone can show kindness to others by sharing Jesus with someone this week.


A Tigre village one kilometre east of Agordat provided a pleasant learning experience as its 200 residents freely interacted with our group. The Quranic and elementary schools are located in a village farther east.

The men are primarily farmers and the women weave baskets, prayer and sleeping mats from palm fronds. Their solid houses are built from hardwood trees and roofed with a covering of palm branches.

God Needs Messengers

1. God to call messengers to the Tigre,
2. Messengers to respond to God's call and prepare to preach the gospel to the Tigre,
3. Messengers to recognize that unless they go, the Tigre will not hear the good news about Jesus.

Prayer Promise

"And how can they hear without someone preaching to them" (Romans 10:14). 

Remember: BE KIND

Memory verse: Proverbs 21:21
"Whoever pursues righteousness and love finds life, prosperity and honour."

1. Being kind to others makes them happy.
2. Kind words and deeds open the way to friendship.
3. Kindness is a reflection of God's grace in our lives.

Pray for messengers to be sent to the Tigre.

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